Maryanne Vandervelde, PhD
2004 Bantam Dell
“….Whether you are already grappling with post-work issues, or are approaching retirement and thinking about how it is going to work out, this is an invaluable tool you can use to help your relationship and yourself thrive through some of the best years of your life. Vandervelde, helps spouses confront, with honesty, respect and humor, the conflicts and adjustments unique at this stage of your life.
In Retirement for Two, psychologist Maryanne Vandervelde, author of the breakthrough book The Changing Life of the Corporate Wife, and human resources consultant, picks up where the standard retirement guides leave off. Vandervelde helps spouses– nearing or already in retirement–confront, with honesty, respect, and humor, the conflicts and adjustments unique at this stage of life.
Vandervelde doesn’t give tax or estate planning, or 401K advice; that she leaves to the money men and women (she does deal with the emotional fallout of money and spending, like not having enough). She explores the challenges for couples, who upon retirement find they have many more choices than ever before, and therefore ample room for disagreement and disappointment. Even couples who think they’ve experienced it all are often surprised by retirements’ special challenges.”
Retirement for Two offers commonsense advice, tackling such issues as:
- Where will you live? Will you downsize? Move south or west? Split time between city and country? Live apart/together for some time each year?
- What will you do with your time?
- What will your relationships with kids and grandkids be like?
- What kind of social life do you want?
- What do you each desire for the rest of your lives? What happens when you want different things? Have different goals?
- Sex and intimacy.
- Getting strong, staying healthy, dealing with a spouse’s illness.